“Are you carrying twins?”

“No”, I replied.

“You must be about to deliver any day though…right?” said the Surly Man.

I had 3 more months to go.

I’m large. I get it. Did you know pregnant women gain weight? 

It’s this funny thing that happens when you are BUSY CONVERTING FOOD INTO A TINY HUMAN.

I’m not bitter though. However as a recovering compulsive-eater, I can be a little sensitive to how people comment on my body.   Though I have been healed for over 14 years, I can still remember the pain like it was yesterday.

I remember what it felt like to think about my body and food constantly. I remember being so controlled by my weight I couldn’t imagine ever being free.

Have you ever been at war? but with yourself?

It wasn’t until I read a book called  “You are Not What you Weigh” by Lisa Bevere, that I began to experience any release from my problem. Lisa says:

“The opposite of self conscious is not a ‘good’ self image or self esteem. The opposite of conscious is unconscious. To lose consciousness of one’s self happens when we become more conscious or aware of God and His will, than we are of self, and its will.”


The key was this: Decrease unhealthy consciousness of my self, and heighten my consciousness of God.

3 Keys to End the War with your Weight:


1. Identify Key Trigger Environments.


One of the key reasons we tend to overeat is because in times of stress, anger, or depression, we eat instead of addressing that deeper problem.  Emotional eating is the practice of consuming large quantities of food in response to feelings instead of hunger. Experts estimate that 75% of overeating is caused by emotions.

For this step, write out a list of: “Activities When I Consistently Overeat”.

2. Replace it with an Awesome Alternative.


Now think of things you “lose yourself in”, when it’s super easy to not eat.  Be creative!  Write out a list of “Activities When I Consistently Tend Not to Overeat”. Like when you:

  • Read that good book you can’t put down
  • Go for a walk or jog.  **Jogging was mine! though it looked more like awkward speed-walking
  • Take a luxurious bubble bath with candles
  • Treat yourself to a hot cup of tea.
  • Go out with a friend.
  • Do housework, laundry, or yard work.
  • Write a letter.
  • Watch a comedy show

3. Secret Sauce: Pause & Dedicate It to God


This step is the key. If you have trouble over-eating at night,  “Father I would like to eat right now, but I choose to get out of the house instead and I offer this to you as a seed”.  (Gal.6:8)

If you typically overeat when you watch TV,  on purpose, choose to take a bath instead.  There’s nothing holy about taking a bath. It’s when you purposely choose to do these activities and offer it to God as a way of choosing Him in your eating – that you end the war with your weight.

Take it just one day at a time! As you proceed down this path, pretty soon a healthier, radiant you will emerge that will sincerely blow your mind. Oh – along the way if you happen to meet Mr. Surly Man? please pray for his future wife.

love to hear if you can relate!  have you ever wrestled, like me, with body-image or weight issues? What strategies have worked for you?