Is there something you are dragging your feet on? Something you know you need to do but, just have not taken the first step?
I want to submit to you that you may be in Fear. Today we will explore some tips and I will show you a fear setting exercise that will break you out of those fears!
Fear can be so paralyzing. It can grapple us and make us feel helpless. I am often asked “How do I overcome fear, especially when the fear is related to pursuing what I know I am supposed to do?”
I believe that one the first steps in overcoming fear is to acknowledge that you are afraid, but also realize that fear does not come from God. It is NOT his best plan for us. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind”. God’s best for us is to experience perfect peace, joy, and love.
Nehemiah was tasked to build a wall. It was no sooner that he began his great work that he was faced with adversity. His response was amazing. In verse 8-10 of chapter 6 he responds. “Nothing you are saying is happening, you are making it up in your head, they are all trying to frighten us thinking their hands will get to weak for the work and it will not be completed, but I prayed, strengthen my hands.” His response to the adversity was to press through with even greater determination. He was so firm in his conviction that he was doing God’s work he would not let anything stop him. We can be like Nehemiah. When fear comes knocking at our door, in whatever form, we can turn that fear into determination.
Sometimes we feel hesitation when we set out to do what we know we are supposed to do. This is actually a good thing. It shows us that the enemy is resisting us in this area, but, it also means we are going in the right direction. Steven Presfield says, “The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more we should be sure we should do it.” Don’t allow that hesitation to stop you, allow it to propel you!
One indicator of fear is Procrastination. Procrastination comes in many forms, but can be poison to our purpose if we give it a foothold. We procrastinate for several reasons.
1. Guilt or Shame.
Often we feel shame if we have stepped out and failed. Fear of failure is a huge stalemate to moving into our purpose. The enemy will try to create a resume of failure when it was only one incidence. Know this, right now you are forgiven by Christ. You are continually cleansed and made new by Christ; He washes our failures and remembers them no more. Don’t allow the lies of failure, guilt or shame stop you from living all of what God has for you.
2. Caring What Other People Think.
The reality is other people do not think about you as much as you think they do. We are hardwired to think about ourselves, but the reality is that others don’t really think about us. Don’t let the perceived notion of others thoughts or words stop you from doing what God is calling you to do.
3. A Vague, Nebulous Feeling.
We may not understand why we are afraid but we just know we have a very uncomfortable feeling. If this is you I want you to try this exercise.
In this weeks podcast episode, I show you a powerful exercise will not only reveal to you what you are afraid of, but how you can determine the source of that fear so you can come up with a solution to that fear. Knowledge is power. If you can assess the what and why behind fear, you can take the step to conquering that fear and continuing into the purpose and plan that God has for you!
All of us have an innate desire to please God, and be obedient to His calling on our lives. It is the journey of discovering that purpose that can be challenging. Project Inspired founder, Nicole Weider sits down and shares with us the vision behind her ministry and how God used her past to propel her into her God given destiny.
1. Discover God’s Plan.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21 NIV. We can have certain visions and ideas of what to do with our life; however, if our plans and purpose do not align with the Lord’s, he will either open or shut a door.
God uses natural talents and gifts to glorify him. Our gifts and talents don’t change. All are special and unique! It is how we use these talents that matters.
2. Don’t Despise Your Pain.
God uses our brokenness as an opportunity to build us into all he desires us to be, we have to submit to the process.
A trial can take us to a place where we realize that we need God. It is in this place that God will lavishly love us and reveal his plan for our lives.
Nothing we go through is wasted. There is always someone out there that needs to know your story.
3. There is No Expiration Date On Your Purpose.
When God does something that impacts you, know that is also meant to impact someone else. You don’t have to wait 55 years to feel like you should help somebody.
Stepping into your purpose may seem scary, or you may feel so motivated that you dive in with both feet. Either way it is vital to listen to God’s voice and obey his instruction.
We live in such a fast paced world and we sometimes try to rush hearing from God, but God is a God of timing. It is important to get quiet and take time to listen to him.
Sometimes, God reveals things that may need to be changed or removed that you may not like, if you are obedient you will find blessing down the road. He knows your eternal future.
God is not intrusive. He is the perfect gentlemen who stands at the door and gently knocks. We have to be the ones to slow down, open the door and let him in. When we do that he can take us into the fullness of our purpose.
4. Garbage in Garbage Out.
As you navigate the journey into your purpose is certain that you absorb and digest things that are God honoring. The more you honor God, the more God will reveal to you.
If you absorb and digest negativity, it will prevent you from growing in the Lord and can sidetrack you from your purpose. Stay closely connected with His word, surround yourself around like-minded people that drive and encourage you!
Learn more about Nicole by checking out her website www.projectinspired.com.
Have you ever dreamed of writing a book, but had no idea where to begin?
Have you ever said to yourself, “Today is the day I am going to start writing” and all you were able to do is stare at a blank page?
Writing a book can seem daunting to many! However 81% of Americans report wanting to writing a book sometime in their lifetime. We reached out to Author, Speaker and Entrepreneur, Chandler Bolt for some insight and direction into how to go from blank page to finished product.
Chandler teaches that first, you must begin by formatting your topic. He says, “Your topic does not have to be this grandiose thing. For some, it may be one simple topic or concept, for others it may be a compilation of many topics. For those who feel they have more topics then paper, analyze each topic and ask yourself:
- What am I passionate about?
- Which book can I write the fastest?
- Which book will I be able to actually finish?
- Which book will make me happy?”
Another point to consider is what is your end goal. How can this serve your business, ministry or goals, both short and long term?
Once you have formalized your topic, check out these three easy action steps that will help form your book.
1: Mind Map
A “Mind Map” is basically a brain dump, based on your topic. Take out a blank sheet of paper and write your intended topic in the center of the page. From there, use lines, arrows and words to draw as many connections from that one topic as you can. This technique will allow you to write in way that is unfiltered and unrestrained, and will additionally reveal themes and chapters. Check out this post for more Information.
Now that you have your topic and concepts written down you can begin the outline. Go through your mind map and consolidate your themes into 4-7 sections. Separate each section into 2-4 components or chapters. To go deeper, check out this post that gives 11 ways to outline your book.
3: Choose Your Own Adventure: Write or Speak Your Book
Once you have organized your thoughts into an outline you can finish the process in one of two ways. The first is to use a device to record your spoken words to create your book draft. This method works best if you are a strong speaker and prefer speaking to writing.
The second is to manually write the book.
Regardless of which method you choose, follow the mind map and outline for each chapter. You should give yourself ten minutes for the mind map, ten minutes for outline and forty five minutes for the actual chapter writing. Check out this additional Post that explains how to speak your book.
As you embark on this journey, it is so important to have accountability that is both public and private. Committing to this will help you push through when the going gets tough. Whether this book becomes a best seller or is a gift left for your children, it is an important part of you who are and deserves to be finished. You never know who you may help; however, you won’t help anyone if you don’t finish.
Mark Zuckerberg said “Done is better than Perfect” —getting the job done matters, and you always win by finishing!
I consider myself to be a creative, spontaneous person. I used to think that setting goals were more for super smart, super organized people, and it seemed too complicated and time-consuming. Whenever I heard people talk about setting goals, I thought it was not for me. I didn’t have the right planners, the right lists or the right formulas.
What I didn’t realize is that setting goals can be fun and exciting. I began to learn that goals are the mile markers that urge you along on the way to achieving your God-given dreams. Setting your goals do not have to be hard or time-consuming, but they are vital in moving you from where you are now to where you want to be in the future. You can begin setting your goals using these four simple steps:
Step 1: Clarify Your Desires
Don’t be afraid of your desires, because they are linked with your specific purpose. God has placed these desires in your heart and He wants to be the one to fulfill them.
Step 2: Identify Your Roles and Goals
Identify your roles, which can include but are not limited to being a mother, wife, husband, father, friend, artist, creator, etc. Right next to the roles you have identified, write one specific, simple goal. Written goals are meant to be clear, specific, and have a date of desired accomplishment.
Step 3: Write them down
There is so much power in writing things down. The bible tells us to write the vision and make it plain, so that people can see it and run with it. Furthermore, there was an amazing study done at the Dominican University by Gail Matthews which showed that the very act of people writing down their goals increased their chances of accomplishing them by 42%. Can you imagine writing your goals down and experiencing almost a 50% greater chance of achieving them?
Step 4: Make them Visible
Something powerful happens when you keep your roles, goals, and desires before you and keep your eyes focused on where you want to go. The bible even talks about keeping His word before our eyes. However, this is the one step where many people skip over it or miss it altogether and they often do not achieve their goals because they simply don’t keep them visible. I used to just write my goals, put them in a drawer, and never think about them again. When I began to make them visible, I thought about them more often and made steps to accomplish them.
These roles and goals, these desires that you have burning in your heart have been put there by God, so dignify them by placing them before your eyes and keeping them visible. What you hold before your eyes is going to be what shows up in your life. When you take some time, even if it’s only fifteen minutes or so, and you sit down and go over these four steps, I guarantee you that it is going to make a difference in achieving your goals and desires.
If we were alone in a dark alley, in you asked me what I thought…I would tell you to start a blog.
Why? Because there isn’t a shorter route to learning discipline, learning the craft, and discovering who you are—than blogging.
It distills your voice, sharpens your passions, puts you in the drivers seat to tell us what YOU really think. It clarifies your calling, teaches you introspection and give you a place—free from censorship or committee-votes to say it how you want to say to it. To convey it how you want to convey it. And best of all?
You act in service to your fellowman.
For those who choose to wield the tool of blogging as a means to inspire, educate and pay forward the hard earned wisdom of their trials—the rewards are unending and the joy infinite.
In a word: you give. And become changed in the giving.
—How to Launch a Blog in 5 Minutes—
1.Get a hosting provider. A web host is where your website “lives.” You own it, but you pay a small fee to keep it online (kind of like paying property taxes to the government). I recommend Bluehost for only $3.49/month. It’s one of the most popular web hosts on the Internet, it’s recommended by all the experts (I’ve done the research) and offers excellent, 24/7 customer service.
2. Register a domain. You can get a domain name (e.g. eileenwilder.com) through your hosting company. I recommend doing it this way, so you can keep everything streamlined. With Bluehost, this service is free with a hosting plan (as opposed to paying extra through a service like Godaddy.com). If you’ve already registered a domain through another service and need to host it, you’ll either have to transfer your domain registration or point your name servers to the host (here’s a video on how to do that).
3. Install WordPress. Blogging requires software, and the best that I’ve found is WordPress. It’s easy, quick, and best of all, free. You can set up WordPress through your host (Bluehost does this for you for free!). Otherwise, you have to go through WordPress.org to download the software and then upload it to a host. (Note: Using WordPress.org is different from signing up for a free blog at WordPress.com. This infographic explains how.)
4. Get a theme. When you start using WordPress, you get access to a bunch of beautiful blog designs (called “themes”), many of which are free. For those just getting started, I recommend Twenty Seventeen; it’s a simple, elegant theme. If you don’t mind spending a bit more, I can’t recommend the Divi Theme from Elegant Themes, it literally makes me excited every time I see it, see someone else with that theme—or play around customizing mine.
5. Log in and start blogging. You’ll want to bookmark the the URL (website address) for your dashboard, so you can find it easily. It is yourblogname.com/wp-admin/. Once logged in, click “Posts” on the left-hand sand, and then select “Add New.” Write a title and create some content for your new blog, and you are off on your new adventure!
“Could you kindly move your behind please?”
“What was … that?” I exclaimed, spinning around to address the voice. It was then I realized my rear end was in the way, keeping the man from his table. Recognizing the hilarity of the situation, we both erupted in laughter, causing looks of irritation from those grabbing lunch around us.
Having just delivered my third child, I was 60 pounds over my normal weight. In my present state, I was unaware of my new body dimensions. Granted, my bottom was much rounder than normal, but in a strange phenomenon unique to childbearing, it had also grown horizontally.
It was as if a small shelf was now attached to my backside.
Why— the man could have rested his coffee on my behind if he had wanted to!
In that moment, it was as if time stood still. The lyric of the laughter, the aghast look on the gentleman’s face—life played in surreal slow motion as I contemplated:
…I hadn’t always been as kind to my body as I was being now.
In fact, we had been vicious enemies for over two decades.
The moment lasted only seconds, but within the sound of the laughter was the echo of my freedom. I recognized something profound in this corner bistro, something that had eluded me throughout my youth:
I had finally made peace with my behind.
When what lies “behind” you is disappointment with your weight or frustration that you just can’t seem to move forward—it’s easy to let what’s behind you, define you.
Statistics show 8 out of 10 of us feel insecure about our bodies. In fact, 97% of women have this thought each day— “I hate my body.”
I remember as a 20-year-old, I had been so long involved with disordered eating that I began to believe disorder was my future.
I couldn’t imagine a world where I would wake up and not obsess about my body or what I was eating.
I couldn’t imagine living light and free, devoid of the aching insecurity and depression that had become my constant companions.
I desperately wanted to experience a different reality, but I had no idea how.
My big behind was in the way.
It was as if there lay a chasm between who I longed to be—healthy, radiant, secure, confident—and who I saw in the mirror. All I saw was a girl—overweight, unstable, with a side of cray-cray.
Finally, after a doctor said I would “never get pregnant” if I continued this path of disordered eating, I dug into the Word, and into restorative teaching. I discovered what I believe are 3 crucial steps.
Not all will take them, but all who do will move toward the promise instead of the problem. Here they are:
1. Know You’re Hot
God wants you to know how valuable you really are. In fact, he calls you His Masterpiece! Some translations denote “luxury.” You are in God’s luxury line! The finest of His creation, the apex of all his works. Rise up, take a risk—and believe you are a hot, luxurious masterpiece handcrafted by heaven. Careful now, this takes real bravery—but dare to believe it.
2. Stop Hiding
Stop avoiding the truth of who God made you and act: Disciplined. Confident. Radiant. Why not “act as if” you already have the authority that He says you can have? What have you got to lose? Bold faith makes him proud and demonstrates you believe what He says over your emotions.
3. Start Before You’re Ready
Too often we wait to “feel it” before we “do it.” William Shakespeare wrote, “Assume the attitude, though you have it not.” It’s only when we start acting as if God’s Word is true, that we can plan for success.
• Hold your head up high.
• Shake people’s hands with confidence.
• Look them in the eye.
• Act like you already possess the Bible-confidence God says you can have.
As you lean in and do these 3 Steps, you just might erupt in laughter, as I did in the café those years ago, hearing heaven whisper:
“Thank you, sweetheart, for moving your behind.”