“95% of all of our actions, feelings and behaviors come from OUTSIDE of our conscious awareness.” —Dr. Mcayla Sarno, Brain Expert and Licensed Psychotherapist
Licensed psychotherapist, brain training and mindset expert, Dr. Mcayla Sarno joins us to explain the step-by-step system to getting unstuck and bringing lasting transformation to our lives.
In this fascinating interview, Dr. Mcayla explains:
- That when circumstances enter our lives, our brains form conclusions outside of our awareness.
- We may not have all of the information we need to properly process these situations—so we tend to “fill in the gaps”
- The problem is we fill in the gaps with inaccurate information, which then become part of our beliefs and those beliefs begin controlling our lives.
It is when these inaccurate perceptions get lodged into our unconscious mind and that it results in the strong feeling of being stuck, in a pattern, behavior or season of our life.
Because our beliefs are coming from our subconscious mind,driving us into fear, doubt, and poor habit— we find ourselves remarking, “WHY did I do that?”
The challenge then becomes how to uncover what is happening in our subconscious mind. How can we dive into the subconscious mind to dislodge the things that can hold us back from achieving our potential?
Here are the two steps that can immediately thrust you forward today, into achieving more of what God fully intends for you:
1. Discover the Illusion.
When we face challenges, we create “illusions” as a coping mechanism.
We tell our selves things like, “If I play it safe, I can avoid disappointment”. The problem is, that is not true.
We have to shift our focus from our “past pain” and embrace the reality that we do matter, and we do have what it takes. We have to retrain our minds to receive the fact that we may not be able to control what happened to us, but we can control how we choose to handle what happened. Our worth, value and capabilities are not in situations, material things, or people.
When you can discover the illusion—you gain control and begin the journey of stepping into your purpose.
Do it Now:
To discover an illusion you may be harboring, ask yourself, “What is it that you are not doing? What do you think is helping you NOT do it? What are you doing to help yourself believe that you are “good enough”? Inside the answer to these questions, are the illusions we are creating.
2. Question Your Perception.
“You cannot find purpose without finding meaning, and you cannot find meaning—unless you make sense of your story. The better you know yourself the clearer your path to purpose.” —Dr. Mcayla Sarno
To achieve success in our lives requires “brain work”. In order to become unstuck, you must question what you believe to be true.
Don’t take what you perceive as TRUTH.
Our perception can be based on emotion and emotion is not face value. It fluctuates and deceives. Take a look at past victories to revive confidence in your capabilities. For example, once you have courage and strength, you can’t lose it. They are traits that stick with you!
Fear can tell you that you don’t have it, but the reality is—that you do.
Do it Now:
Recall a memory of an incident where you exhibited courage and hold it consciously in your mind. Now, question your perception of your current challenge, and bring it back in line with what is true and right in your life.
Is there something you are dragging your feet on? Something you know you need to do but, just have not taken the first step?
I want to submit to you that you may be in Fear. Today we will explore some tips and I will show you a fear setting exercise that will break you out of those fears!
Fear can be so paralyzing. It can grapple us and make us feel helpless. I am often asked “How do I overcome fear, especially when the fear is related to pursuing what I know I am supposed to do?”
I believe that one the first steps in overcoming fear is to acknowledge that you are afraid, but also realize that fear does not come from God. It is NOT his best plan for us. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind”. God’s best for us is to experience perfect peace, joy, and love.
Nehemiah was tasked to build a wall. It was no sooner that he began his great work that he was faced with adversity. His response was amazing. In verse 8-10 of chapter 6 he responds. “Nothing you are saying is happening, you are making it up in your head, they are all trying to frighten us thinking their hands will get to weak for the work and it will not be completed, but I prayed, strengthen my hands.” His response to the adversity was to press through with even greater determination. He was so firm in his conviction that he was doing God’s work he would not let anything stop him. We can be like Nehemiah. When fear comes knocking at our door, in whatever form, we can turn that fear into determination.
Sometimes we feel hesitation when we set out to do what we know we are supposed to do. This is actually a good thing. It shows us that the enemy is resisting us in this area, but, it also means we are going in the right direction. Steven Presfield says, “The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more we should be sure we should do it.” Don’t allow that hesitation to stop you, allow it to propel you!
One indicator of fear is Procrastination. Procrastination comes in many forms, but can be poison to our purpose if we give it a foothold. We procrastinate for several reasons.
1. Guilt or Shame.
Often we feel shame if we have stepped out and failed. Fear of failure is a huge stalemate to moving into our purpose. The enemy will try to create a resume of failure when it was only one incidence. Know this, right now you are forgiven by Christ. You are continually cleansed and made new by Christ; He washes our failures and remembers them no more. Don’t allow the lies of failure, guilt or shame stop you from living all of what God has for you.
2. Caring What Other People Think.
The reality is other people do not think about you as much as you think they do. We are hardwired to think about ourselves, but the reality is that others don’t really think about us. Don’t let the perceived notion of others thoughts or words stop you from doing what God is calling you to do.
3. A Vague, Nebulous Feeling.
We may not understand why we are afraid but we just know we have a very uncomfortable feeling. If this is you I want you to try this exercise.
In this weeks podcast episode, I show you a powerful exercise will not only reveal to you what you are afraid of, but how you can determine the source of that fear so you can come up with a solution to that fear. Knowledge is power. If you can assess the what and why behind fear, you can take the step to conquering that fear and continuing into the purpose and plan that God has for you!
All of us have an innate desire to please God, and be obedient to His calling on our lives. It is the journey of discovering that purpose that can be challenging. Project Inspired founder, Nicole Weider sits down and shares with us the vision behind her ministry and how God used her past to propel her into her God given destiny.
1. Discover God’s Plan.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21 NIV. We can have certain visions and ideas of what to do with our life; however, if our plans and purpose do not align with the Lord’s, he will either open or shut a door.
God uses natural talents and gifts to glorify him. Our gifts and talents don’t change. All are special and unique! It is how we use these talents that matters.
2. Don’t Despise Your Pain.
God uses our brokenness as an opportunity to build us into all he desires us to be, we have to submit to the process.
A trial can take us to a place where we realize that we need God. It is in this place that God will lavishly love us and reveal his plan for our lives.
Nothing we go through is wasted. There is always someone out there that needs to know your story.
3. There is No Expiration Date On Your Purpose.
When God does something that impacts you, know that is also meant to impact someone else. You don’t have to wait 55 years to feel like you should help somebody.
Stepping into your purpose may seem scary, or you may feel so motivated that you dive in with both feet. Either way it is vital to listen to God’s voice and obey his instruction.
We live in such a fast paced world and we sometimes try to rush hearing from God, but God is a God of timing. It is important to get quiet and take time to listen to him.
Sometimes, God reveals things that may need to be changed or removed that you may not like, if you are obedient you will find blessing down the road. He knows your eternal future.
God is not intrusive. He is the perfect gentlemen who stands at the door and gently knocks. We have to be the ones to slow down, open the door and let him in. When we do that he can take us into the fullness of our purpose.
4. Garbage in Garbage Out.
As you navigate the journey into your purpose is certain that you absorb and digest things that are God honoring. The more you honor God, the more God will reveal to you.
If you absorb and digest negativity, it will prevent you from growing in the Lord and can sidetrack you from your purpose. Stay closely connected with His word, surround yourself around like-minded people that drive and encourage you!
Learn more about Nicole by checking out her website www.projectinspired.com.
Have you ever dreamed of writing a book, but had no idea where to begin?
Have you ever said to yourself, “Today is the day I am going to start writing” and all you were able to do is stare at a blank page?
Writing a book can seem daunting to many! However 81% of Americans report wanting to writing a book sometime in their lifetime. We reached out to Author, Speaker and Entrepreneur, Chandler Bolt for some insight and direction into how to go from blank page to finished product.
Chandler teaches that first, you must begin by formatting your topic. He says, “Your topic does not have to be this grandiose thing. For some, it may be one simple topic or concept, for others it may be a compilation of many topics. For those who feel they have more topics then paper, analyze each topic and ask yourself:
- What am I passionate about?
- Which book can I write the fastest?
- Which book will I be able to actually finish?
- Which book will make me happy?”
Another point to consider is what is your end goal. How can this serve your business, ministry or goals, both short and long term?
Once you have formalized your topic, check out these three easy action steps that will help form your book.
1: Mind Map
A “Mind Map” is basically a brain dump, based on your topic. Take out a blank sheet of paper and write your intended topic in the center of the page. From there, use lines, arrows and words to draw as many connections from that one topic as you can. This technique will allow you to write in way that is unfiltered and unrestrained, and will additionally reveal themes and chapters. Check out this post for more Information.
Now that you have your topic and concepts written down you can begin the outline. Go through your mind map and consolidate your themes into 4-7 sections. Separate each section into 2-4 components or chapters. To go deeper, check out this post that gives 11 ways to outline your book.
3: Choose Your Own Adventure: Write or Speak Your Book
Once you have organized your thoughts into an outline you can finish the process in one of two ways. The first is to use a device to record your spoken words to create your book draft. This method works best if you are a strong speaker and prefer speaking to writing.
The second is to manually write the book.
Regardless of which method you choose, follow the mind map and outline for each chapter. You should give yourself ten minutes for the mind map, ten minutes for outline and forty five minutes for the actual chapter writing. Check out this additional Post that explains how to speak your book.
As you embark on this journey, it is so important to have accountability that is both public and private. Committing to this will help you push through when the going gets tough. Whether this book becomes a best seller or is a gift left for your children, it is an important part of you who are and deserves to be finished. You never know who you may help; however, you won’t help anyone if you don’t finish.
Mark Zuckerberg said “Done is better than Perfect” —getting the job done matters, and you always win by finishing!
I consider myself to be a creative, spontaneous person. I used to think that setting goals were more for super smart, super organized people, and it seemed too complicated and time-consuming. Whenever I heard people talk about setting goals, I thought it was not for me. I didn’t have the right planners, the right lists or the right formulas.
What I didn’t realize is that setting goals can be fun and exciting. I began to learn that goals are the mile markers that urge you along on the way to achieving your God-given dreams. Setting your goals do not have to be hard or time-consuming, but they are vital in moving you from where you are now to where you want to be in the future. You can begin setting your goals using these four simple steps:
Step 1: Clarify Your Desires
Don’t be afraid of your desires, because they are linked with your specific purpose. God has placed these desires in your heart and He wants to be the one to fulfill them.
Step 2: Identify Your Roles and Goals
Identify your roles, which can include but are not limited to being a mother, wife, husband, father, friend, artist, creator, etc. Right next to the roles you have identified, write one specific, simple goal. Written goals are meant to be clear, specific, and have a date of desired accomplishment.
Step 3: Write them down
There is so much power in writing things down. The bible tells us to write the vision and make it plain, so that people can see it and run with it. Furthermore, there was an amazing study done at the Dominican University by Gail Matthews which showed that the very act of people writing down their goals increased their chances of accomplishing them by 42%. Can you imagine writing your goals down and experiencing almost a 50% greater chance of achieving them?
Step 4: Make them Visible
Something powerful happens when you keep your roles, goals, and desires before you and keep your eyes focused on where you want to go. The bible even talks about keeping His word before our eyes. However, this is the one step where many people skip over it or miss it altogether and they often do not achieve their goals because they simply don’t keep them visible. I used to just write my goals, put them in a drawer, and never think about them again. When I began to make them visible, I thought about them more often and made steps to accomplish them.
These roles and goals, these desires that you have burning in your heart have been put there by God, so dignify them by placing them before your eyes and keeping them visible. What you hold before your eyes is going to be what shows up in your life. When you take some time, even if it’s only fifteen minutes or so, and you sit down and go over these four steps, I guarantee you that it is going to make a difference in achieving your goals and desires.
If we were alone in a dark alley, in you asked me what I thought…I would tell you to start a blog.
Why? Because there isn’t a shorter route to learning discipline, learning the craft, and discovering who you are—than blogging.
It distills your voice, sharpens your passions, puts you in the drivers seat to tell us what YOU really think. It clarifies your calling, teaches you introspection and give you a place—free from censorship or committee-votes to say it how you want to say to it. To convey it how you want to convey it. And best of all?
You act in service to your fellowman.
For those who choose to wield the tool of blogging as a means to inspire, educate and pay forward the hard earned wisdom of their trials—the rewards are unending and the joy infinite.
In a word: you give. And become changed in the giving.
—How to Launch a Blog in 5 Minutes—
1.Get a hosting provider. A web host is where your website “lives.” You own it, but you pay a small fee to keep it online (kind of like paying property taxes to the government). I recommend Bluehost for only $3.49/month. It’s one of the most popular web hosts on the Internet, it’s recommended by all the experts (I’ve done the research) and offers excellent, 24/7 customer service.
2. Register a domain. You can get a domain name (e.g. eileenwilder.com) through your hosting company. I recommend doing it this way, so you can keep everything streamlined. With Bluehost, this service is free with a hosting plan (as opposed to paying extra through a service like Godaddy.com). If you’ve already registered a domain through another service and need to host it, you’ll either have to transfer your domain registration or point your name servers to the host (here’s a video on how to do that).
3. Install WordPress. Blogging requires software, and the best that I’ve found is WordPress. It’s easy, quick, and best of all, free. You can set up WordPress through your host (Bluehost does this for you for free!). Otherwise, you have to go through WordPress.org to download the software and then upload it to a host. (Note: Using WordPress.org is different from signing up for a free blog at WordPress.com. This infographic explains how.)
4. Get a theme. When you start using WordPress, you get access to a bunch of beautiful blog designs (called “themes”), many of which are free. For those just getting started, I recommend Twenty Seventeen; it’s a simple, elegant theme. If you don’t mind spending a bit more, I can’t recommend the Divi Theme from Elegant Themes, it literally makes me excited every time I see it, see someone else with that theme—or play around customizing mine.
5. Log in and start blogging. You’ll want to bookmark the the URL (website address) for your dashboard, so you can find it easily. It is yourblogname.com/wp-admin/. Once logged in, click “Posts” on the left-hand sand, and then select “Add New.” Write a title and create some content for your new blog, and you are off on your new adventure!